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Staying together for the sake of the children

I saw this was the topic on This Morning, new research shows that if your child suffers from some sort of psychological problem they 'grow up to earn as much as 30 per cent less in their lifetime than those who hadn't suffered any problems' such as parents’ divorce.

I always find this interesting as I have met a few people in the past whose family had an amicable break up yet they still seem to use their parents break up as an excuse not to work or succeed in life, when in fact they use it for attention and to cover up the fact they are just a little bit lazy. I was a recruitment consultant and believe it or not a number of candidates used their parents break ups as the reason they didn't work!

Please note that I did say amicable break up, I understand that if a child has had a particularly hard upbringing then it could affect them in the future.

I was bought up just by my mum and I wouldn't have changed it for the world, I really can honestly say I had a very happ…

Do other people's opinions bother you?

I guess I am in the unique position of being surrounded by people in the pub all of the time and people tend to comment probably more than in a normal every day situation some good, some bad. Do I care what other people think? As much as I would like to say no, I really do!

I have mentioned in the past, Tillie tots really isn't very people friendly, I was getting stared at today because we were in a card shop and she was pointing out and telling me the names of all of the characters that she recognised. I could hear people commenting on how well she was doing for her age, but then a lady walked by and touched her hand and said "what a clever girl", Tillie is really scared especially of strangers, I still do not know why as she sees them ALL the time! Maybe she sees too many people that she cannot work out who is who, but this lady felt awful and apologised profusely, I really wasn't cross as she was only being friendly and most other children would love the attention…

How do mums know everything?

I always said I never wanted children, this was mainly due to the fact that we didn't think we could have any so it was easier to tell people I didn't want them just so that I didn't have to explain problems and I certainly didn't want people to feel sorry for me!

I always thought that I was too selfish to have children, how could I look after someone that needed my undivided attention and more importantly how would I know what to do? My mum knew everything, she had all the answers! I knew nothing! I even started to think that it must just be programmed into you that when you became a mum all of the answers would just be there, well as I found out, I don't know everything but I can certainly make a lot of it up as i go along!

How do we just magically know what to say to children to make them feel better, where does the 'magic fairy dust' come from to make that naughty pain go away? We know just the right songs to make those tears dry up and see their faces …

Finding a bib suitable for a baby with bad reflux!

Tillie suffered very badly from reflux due to her laryngomalacia, none of the bibs I bought were suitable, they soaked straight through on to her clothes and when she started on solids it got even worse and stained them all too!

I tried one's from off the high street, supermarkets, specialist ones suitable for reflux, I even spent up to £10 on them in the hope that I would find one that would stop her from getting wet and smelly round her neck and also save her clothes (and mine!)
We tried:

MAM uk Bibetta


Very pretty and I was very excited to try this one as I had read some very positive reviews it claims it is
"Neoprene bib--waterproof, absorbent, flexible, stain-resistant and wipes clean". I found that as attractive as it was, when you do have a baby with severe reflux who had started on solid foods it definitely caught the sick in its little fold up catch flap, but it didnt absorb it, it just stayed there smelling very unpleasant and was challenging to get rid of as y…

Finally a non spill cup that really works!

If you are like me and have tried to find a toddler cup that doesn't leak when dragged along, tipped upside down, dropped from a height - then I have the solution for you!

I bought the Anywayup cup RRP: £2.59 - £4.50 and have not been disappointed! Created by Mandy Haberman - successful British inventor and entrepreneur and a mum who had an idea who made it happen!




The lid is slightly challenging to get off but once you get used to it, it is not a problem, at least this means that our little ones cannot undo it! It is a pull off lid rather than a screw top like the others I have tried.

It is very easy to clean as there are only two parts and no fiddly bits either! Also dishwasher safe.

Tillie loves the bright pink colour and it is easy for her to hold, it is a nice sturdy plastic and she drinks from it absolutely fine, whereas other ones she has struggled to get the hang of.

Definitely recommended if you are suffering from juice stains and milk on your carpet!

Fake Tan and an old Lady stuck on a roof, holiday memories!

What a lovely few days of sunshine we have had and even better the fact that my solar urticaria has stayed away! I can never do anything normal! I don't just get urticaria I have to have the one where it looks like im a dinosaur and then feel really poorly with it! (Going abroad is a big no no!)

I was about to write a review of a farm we took Tillie to on Tuesday, but writing about the sun reminded me of the first holiday away with Nick, we went to Majorca.

I researched online (like I do with everything! I HAVE to find the best bargain!) any way I eventually contacted a local travel company and after them sending me lots of hotels to look at, I decided to pick the only 4* hotel which looked beautiful and ticked all the boxes, it was by the beach, had a pool, was a few minutes’ walk from the town (which turned out to be magaluf! ARGHH but we hadn't got Tillie then so it wasn't a problem), all inclusive, English speaking, sea view room - sorted!

I am a redhead so naturally …

Did you really know how to breastfeed - did you get support?

You buy the books, I thought I could give Supernanny a run for her money, bring that baby on! I thought I knew it all! Yeah right!

I was convinced for the first half of my pregnancy that I was going to bottle feed baby bean, my mum never breastfed us, only one of my sister's tried breastfeeding but I don't think her experience was good, but the fact my mum has been so poorly through life and me and my sisters have had a number of illnesses and such a weak immune system I started to seriously think about this and decided that maybe it would give Bean the best start in life plus I did feel pressured by everyone else to do it, media, nurses midwifes, leaflets!

I really did have a terrible childbirth it was quite traumatic and I was semi unconscious I don't really remember much about the first night with Tillie, I was too poorly to watch her all night, I was in desperate need for a blood transfusion and was told on the labour ward that I was not to be left on my own or attempt…

Fisher-Price Laugh & Learn Say Please Tea Set

I saw this and thought WOW how cute! I really wanted to get this for Tillie (ok well for me too).
RRP: £15.99
As soon as I took it out of the box I thought it was great, I loved the girlie pink and purple colours.
The pack comes with a singing teapot which teaches numbers, opposites, manners, greetings and sings really cute little songs which Tillie loves dancing to.
The three shape cakes fit on the plate to teach shapes without really knowing that you are learning at the same time, however Tillie soon picked this up and now tells me that she can see a triangle!
It has three modes - learning, music and imagination - you can press the teabag button to play a song, and lift the lid to hear opposites, it has realistic pouring sounds and I love the way it teaches manners too.
"More please" "why thank you".
The two cups are a nice size for little hands and have a happy face on them.

We have spent hours playing picnics with this set it really is a lovely way to spe…

We are engaged....sorted!

Well I have been with the lovely Nick for nearly four years. I have always known of him, he was the baby faced one who I always looked up to as he was a couple of years older than me at youth club; if he smiled i blushed etc...

Anyway we fell in love in our village pub, the same village pub that we now run!....Ahhhh sounds like a true love story. We have been inseparable since the first day, in the nearly four years there has only been one day where we haven't seen each other and that was in the first week of meeting.

We moved in to the pub and took over the running of it after being together for nine months, a year later I found out I was pregnant and in October 2009 our baby girl was born and we haven't looked back!

He really is the most laid back guy you could meet, he's really funny, really lovely, very caring, SO UNROMANTIC it is unreal but that is just him and I am not one of those girls who likes flowers and soppy things so this suits me just fine. The thought of hi…

I'm happy with how I look - so what is your problem?

Nick said to me "I love you because you are unique that's why you have always caught my eye"
I’m 5ft 4 (and a quarter!) with curly red hair (I’m not ginger I’m titian he he) I have always been slim, I honestly just cannot put on weight, I've even been to the doctors to try and see what was wrong with me as I had so many comments in the past..... I’m a size 8 and just under 8 stone I’m not 'uber' skinny and the only problem I have is that I eat too much!
I have never been any different, I have never had to watch what I eat and I feel very fortunate to never have had to worry about a diet.....

However I have always been made to feel that there was something wrong with me by other people! People I have worked with have always commented on my 'unhealthy diet' and the fact that I can eat what I like - "why aren't you huge?”..... I always end up apologising and telling them that my family are the same which is true.

There was one girl who used to g…

Why my little girl is so clingy

With running a pub I knew that it would be a bit of a juggle, but I have always had such a weak immune system I was determined to try and breastfeed Tillie to give her the 'best start in life' plus I did feel slightly pressured into it at hospital - after the awful childbirth she was almost 'plonked' on me whilst I was semi unconscious and I literally was drifting in and out due to a big blood loss, I had no idea where I was or what I was doing and didn't have any other option. I thought that if I did breastfeed then she would be more 'mine' as running the pub I had a feeling that I would have to pass her around more if she was bottle fed as 'anyone can do it' I just wanted everything to be perfect and to spend as much time with her as possible and share those special moments.

As you might have read in my previous posts Tillie was born with laryngomalacia, from about 6 weeks old she got very distressed if she was passed to anyone other than her dadd…

Bye Bye Tantrums!

How does your little baby turn into a tantrum throwing toddler? More importantly how can you stop this before the tantrums take over!?

Tillie is just so adorable but without warning would throw herself on the floor; she was increasingly banging her head when she was cross and just whining and crying and seemed very frustrated and increasingly agitated. This obviously unsettled me too as I spend all my day playing and reading to her, perhaps giving her a little too much attention! She was seeing me more as a playmate rather than her Mummy and I was at risk of losing my happy little girl and letting these tantrums take over!

I had to put a stop to it before she hurt herself banging her head to as every day the tantrums were increasing and I was failing miserably at trying to stop them!
This is what I tried to begin with:

1) Telling her to stop banging her head
2) Distracting her
3) Holding her on my knee and talking to her calmly until she calmed down (and hoped that I didn't have…

Worst present you ever received?

I remember mine!
I was 18 years old, I had been with my first what I classed as serious boyfriend for a few months, and Christmas was coming up! I was working as a wardrobe assistant for the local Theatre and had the pleasure of being Su Pollard's dresser.
My boyfriend (please note that I am thankfully no longer with him!) informed me that he was so excited about the present he had bought me, he said that he had never bought such an amazing present for anyone before (he was a few years older than me!)He said he couldn't wait to see my face when I opened it.

I was so excited I told everyone who I worked with, I couldn't wait for Christmas day! I went out and spent a lot of my wages on him in the hope that it would match up to this amazing present!

Oh I was thinking it was some jewellery, a holiday, a weekend away. Oh I told everyone I kept going on and on and on! It got to the stage where everyone was as desperate as I was to find out! Especially Su, I remember trying to …

Boy or girl?

When the customers found out that I was pregnant and my bump started to grow, I noticed that especially the older generation informed me of what sex Bean would be.

"You are definitely having a boy.....I am never wrong"

"Oh yes look you are carrying all out the front, it is without doubt a boy...I am always right"

I even had them laying me down doing the ring test......"look at that, you are having a boy!"

My sister went to for a psychic reading, she was told that one of her sister's was pregnant (that was me!) and that the baby was due in October (correct) and that she would be having a boy!

One lady who claims that she can 'predict' the sex of a baby, gave me a necklace and kept dipping it in and out of my hand to see which way it spun round.....According to her I was having a boy!

We didn't want to find out the sex of Bean as we were pretty much convinced from what we had read and from what everyone was saying that we were having a boy!

Were you proud of your bump?

As you may already be aware we run a pub, so every body knows your business whether you like it or not but they are all kind and mean well in their own special way! (I haven't always felt like that!)

I wanted to keep my pregnancy quiet for as long as I could. However having four wonderful sisters I couldn't help but tell them and start talking names, clothing, nursery ideas etc....We all got carried away chatting and by the time I was 10 weeks pregnant we were at a family party and mum couldn't wait to tell people! So by the time we left everyone knew which then meant the next day nearly everyone in the village knew.

I have always been very petite and a small size 8 so to see my body change because I had a baby bean growing inside me was very exciting, I was very proud and looked forward to reading how my bean was growing each week.

I remember laughing when I bought some maternity trousers I put them on to show my sister and they fell straight down, I never though I would …

Egg and Soldiers

It was a sunny sunday morning Spring/Summer 2010, my partner had been downstairs cleaning the pub and was getting ready for football so it would be around 8.30/9am. Mum had just arrived at the pub to start preparing food for the busy Sunday Carvery.

Tillie had been a bit fussy that morning and didn't really want her breakfast so I went downstairs to see if mum could think of anything else I could get Tillie to try for her breakfast, she suggested trying egg and soldiers. Tillie had been on solids for a while and with Tillie being lactose intollerant I always tended to use jars or make my own food so I knew there was nothing in there to hurt her little belly.

Nick was stood with me as we watched Tillie's face in anticipation as we did when we tried her on anything new....does she like it? will she squirm?
A matter of seconds after she tried the tiniest bit of yolk on a 'soldier' she started rubbing round her face, rubbing her nose, her mouth and sniffing lots. Mum had c…

Bedtime Routine

We have always had the same bedtime routine, I have always been the one to put her to bed, just purely because of my partner working in the pub.

She has her bath and brushes teeth, I end up chasing her around the front room trying to dress her and hoping that I catch her and put her nappy on before she wee's on the floor, she sometimes has something else to eat if she hasn't eaten much tea, then has some milk sitting on my knee. She then points out my eyes, nose, mouth, chin, ears, hair, she does the same to herself, we then go through to her bedroom which is right next to the lounge, I turn the light off to reveal the glow in the dark stars on her ceiling, I put her in her cot and put her arms through her sleeping bag but leave her legs out so I can zip her in it later, I put vaseline on her temples, bridge of nose and chest (I was told this helps her breathe better if she is bunged up or teething) and sometimes put some bonjela in her mouth. I say the same thing every night …

Mummy mummy mummy mummy!

Tillie woke up this morning at about 7.15am, by 7.30am she must have said "mummy" about 30 times and I don't think I am even exaggerating! I was deperate for her to say 'Mummy' for so long, all she used to say was "daddy" and i was even called "dadum" for a while but she has been saying mummy for quite a while and now she doesn't stop hehe.

"Mummy mummy mummy mummy"
"Yes poppet"
"Mummy mummy mummy mummy"
"Shall we read a book"
"Mummy mummy mummy no mummy mummy mummy"
"Shall we dance?"
"Mummy mummy mummy dance mummy mummy"

Tillie is obsessed with ice, as soon as we go down into the pub she asks for "more ice more ice more ice" Some elderly customers were trying to get her attention today but she was too busy bobbing up and down singing "ice ice baby".

Tillie's hair is completely out of control at the moment, she looks so cute it is starting to get …

Kid's do the funniest things!

One of our elderly customers knitted Tillie a skirt, it was very kind but not something that I would put Tillie in. Plus is was very small, when I was presented with this skirt my first thought was "oh no she is going to see how tiny it is compared to my jumbo baby and there is no way am I ever going to let her wear that".

But being polite and I really was touched that she had taken time to knit this for us that I passed the skirt to Tillie who put it straight on her head and posed.....

Luckily the customer found this highly amusing along with everyone else who was having lunch in our pub that day!

"Your baby has Laryngomalacia"!!!????

I will explain a little about my labour, maybe a detailed explanation might go up in the future but lets put it like this, it was not nice and after suffering from an Irritable Uterus throughout my pregnancy followed by a 42 hour labour and a scary ending but I got the beautiful Tillie Bean so was worth every second! Basically the cord was wrapped around her neck twice and right round her body. She had the hiccups so much during pregnancy and I am wondering if this does have a connection to the problem which was about to be revealed!

I remember a few nights after Tillie was born hearing a strange noises when she was breathing, I had to stay in hospital for a few nights as I needed a blood transfusion, I buzzed the nurse to check about her breathing but was told 'it is just mucous on her lungs it is very common it won't last long'.
Even as a new mum I thought that this wasn't the case, but who was I to argue.
This 'mucous' was getting louder and louder and by …

Yorkshire Wildlife Park

We decided that we would go to the Yorkshire Wildlife Park http://www.yorkshirewildlifepark.net/ Today with it being so sunny outside.
We told Tillie we were going to see some animals, I love the way she repeats everything we say now, she managed to stay awake during the car journey and the whole way round the park.
She was more interested in the cat that was sunbathing near the entrance, I didn't think she was going to move as she kept saying "hewwo cat miaowww".
She liked the Meercats and the play area is near the entrance so she was quite happily swinging away looking at the horses.
It is a nice place to go, I wouldn't say that you could spend a whole day there as there isn't a lot to do but for under 5's it is ideal. They can run around, go and pat the sheep and goats, walk through the Lemur park and get up close to the Wallabies.
The food there isn't the best and is very expensive for 2xsausage chips and beans and two soft drinks it came to £15.85!!!…

Books, books and more books!

I am very lucky in the fact that I do not have to worry about nursery or child minders or rush around in the morning to get ready for work.

Our morning usually consists of waking up, taking all of the teddies down from her hammock and lining them up in her bed, reading a book, sticking stickers everywhere, wathcing peppa pig, dancing to fun song factory, reading, pretend picnic, dancing, reading, eating breakfast, dancing a bit more reading etc.... So we do really play all day long.

We went to the Doctors for the dreaded injections this morning but the nurse was not happy to do them as Tillie had a few spots on her belly which could potentially be chickenpox (or a teething rash) but she was in such a happy mood today I really was very relieved when she didn't have them.
In the waiting room Tillie was sat on my knee reading her books and kissing every page, people kept asking how old she was and were shocked at how advanced she is for her age which makes me feel very proud but at …

Personalised Gift ideas - Don't forget Mother's day is on 3rd April!

I like to try and give personalised gifts to my family, I have spent hours searching online for presents. Below are a few of my favourites.
If you have any that you think that I could mention please let me know!

Name a Rose
I have just bought this for a very close friend who lost her amazing husband last year, he was very special to me and it is coming up to what would have been his Birthday, their anniversary and also her Birthday all within the space of a week. I thought that by naming a rose after him would be a lovely way to remember him by and to let them know that I am thinking about him often. The gift contains seeds, information on how to grow the seeds, you can send the registry card with your chosen name, you will then get a certificate with the name you have chosen a few days later.

Dear Mum from You to Me
I bought this as a gift for my Mum for Christmas, there are so many stories parents have to share but unless they keep a diary they are often forgotten or not passed on …

Fisher-Price Bounce & Spin Zebra

RRP - £54.99

Product information
Encorages baby to bounce and move
Activities either side of handles
Plays 5 songs
From 12months+

I saw this on an advert and just had to have it as it looked so much fun, it was simple enough to put together it took about ten minutes in total. We bought this for Tillie just before her 1st Birthday and it is only since she turned 16 months that it has actually interested her. She hasn't been very interested in sitting on toys but she now runs into her room leaps on it bounces for about 30 seconds then jumps off and carries on playing.

I like the idea of the product and think that some children would get a lot of use out of it, it wasn't quite what I expected, I think I would get the black and white zebra rather than the pink one if I had the opportunity to buy it again as I feel the colours are not as striking as they could be, but that isn't really too much of an issue.
I am always slightly wary of her falling off but so far she has had not…

Fisher Price Rainforest Jumperoo

RRP - £89.99 - £99.99

Product Features
360ยบ rotating seat
3 height adjustments
Rewards jumping by playing music due to a motion sensor
Feature lights, sounds & motion.
Frame can be easily disconnected so can be tucked away when not in use.
Requires 3x AA batteries.
Suitable when baby can hold their head unsupported.

My Mum bought this for Tillie when she was 15 weeks old, she had been able to hold her head steady for a while and I had heard a lot about this product so I had high expectations and all of these were spot on!

What a fantastic product, it is bright, colourful as soon as Tillie went in it she was fascinated by the colours, it took her a few months before she could work all of the toys but every time she went in it she found something new and exciting to do, she couldn't reach the floor to begin with but that wasn't too much of an issue because there were so many things to keep her occupied.
By the time she was 6 months old she was leaping about, pulling …

Graco Sweetpeace Infant Soothing Center

RRP : £169.99 
Product features
"Born out of medical research Sweetpeace more closely mimics parents soothing motion than any other product" MP3 connection and 15 pre-programmed melodies and nature sounds Can be used with any Graco infant car seat to easily transfer a sleeping baby from car to the soother 3 seating positions. 3 recline positions, plus the seat can be used as a floor rocker Removable play bar with mirror and teething ring and a teddy bear Newborn swaddle blanket 6 speeds and a timer function Mains or battery operated Age/Size Suitability: From birth to 9kg Product Dimensons: 87 x 82 x 100 cm Product Weight: 11.6kgs
This was one of the first things we were bought as a present for our baby, when we got it out of the box we thought WOW it was quite simple to put together and looked very impressive!
When we set it up we then realised just how large the unit was and it sat there for about a month before Tillie made an appearance, everyone who saw it commented on how lovely …

Let me take you back to the beginning!

As a first time mum I wanted the best for my little baby 'bean' as we called our growing baby!
I bought so many things before baby bean was born! Clothes, toys, cot, designed the nursery in neutral colours lemon and green.
I have such a wonderful family and the best mum anyone could ever dream of having, so with being the baby of the family they all look after me! I four wonderful sisters who are all quite a bit older than I am so I have had the pleasure of growing up with my three gorgeous nieces and two very cool and handsome nephews so they had all bought so many things along with m
I thought I knew it all already,when my mum kept saying "you will get so much when the baby is born and you won't use most of the things you have bought" I thought that you could never have enough things! (I had bought over 800 nappies ready for the arrival!)

WELL ..... our beautiful baby girl Matilda Rose was born on Wednesday 7th October 2009 at 6.42pm, after a terrible labour a…

A little bit about my week!

Here goes....

I had spent the day dancing and playing with Tillie as usual, I had put her favourite programme on - Fun song Factory, we have to watch it on YouTube as that is the only place I can find it now, it was first shown in 1994, it is full of nursery rhymes and action songs with Dave Benson-Phillips - absolutely must see for any parent and child! Sorry where was i? (As you will notice I get easily distracted!) We were busy dancing to the Hokey Cokey, the song had just finished and she sat in her lovely pink sofa chair that her Nanna had bought her, she got slightly excited about the next song and poked me straight in the eye. I am quite dramatic but this really did hurt - I couldn't open my eye and after about half an hour later it was getting worse it was not swollen and really red.
Tillie goes to her Nanna's house for two hours a week, that is the only time I can be apart from her as we just have far too much fun! My Partner Nick and I went into town to buy Tillie a…